These are not quite reviews and not quite testimonials, but rather:

"Positive and Negative Things Said to Me That Have Motivated Me"

 

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This is a spot of vulnerability to help show others that words matter, that what you say matters.  

For me, when something profound is said to me (whether good or bad), it embeds itself in my mind like a horror movie stuck in a loop with no way make it stop.  Below are a few examples of things that have stuck with me, regardless of whether they were said to me or about me.  

In some instances, I have included a follow up comment.   

"Sometimes a person's spirit stays with you til the end of time after meeting them.  Sabrina is one of those people and I can't imagine a photographer out there that wouldn't love to be shown around by this amazing model as she enthusiastically drags you in and out of all the coolest abandoned locations that she slyly keeps to herself (unless you're hanging with her, that is).  Adventurous, fun, clever, and gorgeous!" - @Shutter_Addict

"Her spirit and passion for her craft are matched by her beauty." - Christopher

"I never fail to receive a compliment on my pendant!" - Amy S.

"So proud to call you mine." - My mom

Oh, Mom.  I miss you so much.  Thank you for your words, encouragement, lessons, struggles on my behalf, and so much more.  This site is dedicated to you much in the way that my life is in honor of yours.  I am so proud to have had you as my mom and our 30 years together will always be one of my dearest treasures.

"'You bring to this world things no one else can.'" - Angie

Thanks, Angie.  My angel on earth, your encouragement is invaluable and your belief in me has helped me go through each day and to create this site. 

"You're trying to do too much." - Jess

No, Jess.  I'll never, ever be able to do enough.  

"You take too many selfies." - Matt

Matt, as a self-portrait artist, "selfies" are a part of my art, even when they are not necessarily artsy or intricate.  But, your statement was in direct response to my "selfie-a-day" coping mechanism, where, at the time, my mental health was failing, I could barely get out of bed, and I used selfies to force myself to get up, get dressed, and make myself presentable.  Either way, your words frustrated me until I realized I could choose to not listen to your opinion.  

"You've changed." - Keith

Yes, Keith.  I have changed.  I have crumbled and rebuilt myself over and over , each time changing into an entirely different person.  Growth and change are a vital part of a fulfilled life and I am so proud of how far I have come.  It has been years now since you said these words to me, but I think of them often and use them to fuel my passion to grow and change every day. 

To everyone else reading this, he said this to me six months after my mom passed away and less than two weeks after my son had gotten out of a multiple-night stay in the hospital for an asthma exacerbation.  But even if the timing was unrelated to major traumatic events, it is our job as humans to evolve.  Change is not a bad thing - and if you embrace the change in yourself and your life, you might find what you were hoping to find all along.

"Why does your mom take so many pictures?" - Hayden

"Because she is a photographer." - Aiden

This was a conversation I overheard where my son, without knowing what he was doing, validated my art.  Up until this point, I called myself a "picture taker" or "someone who likes to take pictures" because to me, a photographer meant that I understood every knob on my camera or shot professionally.  At that time, neither of those things was true, so I felt phony calling myself a photographer (even though I have been taking pictures since I was old enough to hold a camera).